Updated: May 19, 2020
I don’t think sometimes we realize how much the words we speak can impact someone’s life. I’m reminded of the childhood phrase “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. I remember saying those words as a child all the while feeling like my insides had been beaten with sticks and stones and left wounds that would never heal. Words can be as deadly as an atomic bomb or they can be as healing as fresh aloe on a burn. I’m thinking about the Christian rap artist Andy Mineo. There’s a verse in his song You Can’t Stop Me that says “Whenever I fail, you’ve always been there to simply remind me I’ve blown it. You don’t see when I’m growing, you don’t see where I’m going. You only see in the moment, you know my mistakes you never let go it.”. The song continues until it gets to a part that says, “my biggest enemy is me”. Sadly, we are often the detonator of our most deadly word bombs.
Along my journey to diffuse the word bombs that I allowed to be placed in my head I made the decision to enter a speaking contest, Dentistry’s Got Talent and won! Winning a speaking competition my first time speaking in front of a large crowd was beyond amazing but true blessing came from the words spoken to me by two of my fellow competitors and I don’t think either one of them realized the impact they made on life in those moments. My friend Sue told me she learned more from watching me speak than she did from a course she paid thousands of dollars for. She learned from me? Ms. Get anxiety when she gets in front of people to talk; Ms. I’ve never done this before, and I really don’t know if I can do it; Ms. will I have anything relevant to say or will people even want to hear me; Ms. will I be able to catch anyone’s attention, or will they be thinking bring on the next speak. In that moment I thought wow this can’t get any better, until I had a conversation with the wonderful Dr. Glasgow. She was the winner in 2nd leg of our competition. We were congratulating each other like 2 giddy high schoolers who had just been asked out to prom and she said to me I inspired her to share her story. Say what! Dr. Glasgow is already doing the thing, she’s an accomplished public speak and change driver and she said little ole’ me inspired her. When I think of my experience at Dentistry’s Got Talent it’s not the check I won that comes to mind, it is the inspiring words spoken to me by Sue, Dr. Glasgow and countless others. As I’m sitting here driving in my car and talking out this blog I had to stop. I’m having trouble getting everything out without totally breaking down into that ugly ugly cry. But after years of being told and telling myself I’m not good enough, I’m not this enough and I’m not that enough It’s so amazing to have my eyes opened and to have God show me that I am enough. In the areas where I’m weak He is strong, He has given me all I need to do all He has purposed for me to do, and if I put my focus and trust in him he’ll take care of the rest. It’s just amazing to me that God has chosen to use me – shy, introverted, don’t quite know what to say all the time, rather be by myself in my comfort zone to speak words of encouragement and inspiration to other people.
If you’re feeling like you’re not enough and you can’t do it, I’m here to tell you that you are, and you can. You weren’t created by accident, you are here for a purpose and for a destiny. You were not created for yourself but for someone else. You are beautiful, powerful, and more than a conqueror. There is nothing that you can’t accomplish if you surround yourself with a tribe and village that will be there to lift you up when you feel weak. It is so easy for us to believe the negative chatter that others speak and that we speak to ourselves. It’s time for us to change the dial and turn the car into another direction. See you on the next trip.